7 Ways to Bless Your Husband – Easy and practical ways to do something great for your spouse. Tips for cultivating serving and giving in your relationship.
My focus for several weeks now has been how to help others. It’s been an adventure. I think about it a lot. What is another way I can help someone? What is another way I can bring a smile to someone’s face.
I’ve been writing about it and sharing here on the blog. So this week nothing grand was coming to mind. I kept racking my brain and the week was catching up to me. I began praying, “God, what can I do?” And in the most gentle way possible he guided me. “What about your husband?”
So I set out on a quest to bless him for a day. It definitely didn’t feel like it would be easy at the moment. I actually woke up that morning frustrated at him from the previous night. I know. It’s wrong.
I got straight to the point and asked him. “What can I do that would bless you today?” He gave me no help at all. He’s been mentioning the ‘clutter.’ So I cleaned up everything out of place in the house that I possibly could. I went out and bought him a new razor and blades. (Little? I know but he’s not into things that he doesn’t need. ) I cooked him (only him) a hot meal ready for his late arrival. He usually gets home at 8 or 9 pm. I had the kids already in bed so we could eat and talk uninterrupted.
So even though I started out the day frustrated at him. I ended up truly wanting to bless him in the most sincere way that I could. I changed my heart and my attitude. In the end it did us both a world of good.
Here’s some way you can truly show appreciation and bless your husband:
1. Just ask. It’s not that difficult. Ask how you can bless him today. Text, phone call, in person. It doesn’t matter. Hopefully he can give you some ideas. Or throw out some suggestions. Time alone with you. His car cleaned. Maybe a special dish for breakfast. Maybe all he wants is to be greeted by the door and for the house to be cleaned up when he gets home.
2. Rack your brain. Think over the last few weeks. What things has he mentioned? Getting a certain project done. Have the tools ready and the kids out of the way. An achy back? Give him a good massage with maybe some candles and music to go with. You never know where that one will lead. 😉
Maybe he would enjoy going to the gym or shooting range after work instead of coming home for dinner. Let him off the hook and tell him to have a great time. Or maybe he’d enjoy a half hour in his favorite recliner to relax while dinner gets prepared. I know. So old school, right? But you never know the impact a little change can make.
3. Less nagging. I am definitely still working on this one. I tend to be a nagger. I don’t want to be but it just happens. Just lay off. If you’re used to being mouthy. Say less. Less is more. Don’t tell him that he left the toilet seat up again or that he left his clothes lying on the floor. Just smile and do it and do it for an entire day or week. You can do it!
4. Focused attention. When was the last time you had an uninterrupted conversation? I know. It can be extremely challenging with children. But from our experience nothing would annoy my husband more than me interrupting to correct the kids. Give him your attention. All of it. Even if it’s means begging a family member to watch the kids or swapping with a friend. Shut off all electronics. Talk. Skip the kid talk too. There’s quite enough of that already. Hold hands. It instantly connects you.
5. Little words of encouragement. Let him know he’s appreciated. Words do wonders. Tell him ‘thank you’ for fixing that broken shelf. Tell him ‘thank you’ for filling up the gas tank. Leave a note with his favorite snack or mug of coffee.
6. Brag about him. There’s probably nothing better than for a husband to hear his wife brag about him. It works both ways of course. Brag about him good and make sure he’s within earshot. I honestly think this works better than me just telling him I appreciate certain things. When he hears me verbalize it to someone else it probably elevates his mood and ego 50%. Try it. Don’t be obvious though. You may not notice the difference but I can guarantee it makes his heart sing.
7. Pray for your husband. Above all else…pray. There’s is honestly nothing better you can do for him. Pray for focused attention at work. Pray for God’s favor. Pray for peace of mind. Pray for his ability to continue to provide for the family. And any other way that he might need prayer. Patience, guidance, a deeper relationship with God. Prayer works. If it didn’t I wouldn’t waste my time. But it does work. And God’s proved it to me over and over.
Little actions make great chain reactions. It was proved in my house last week. Be committed to your one.
If you have other great ideas please leave them in the comments so others can be inspired.
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Those are all great ideas Melanie!
For my husband’s birthday, I wrote out a list of reasons why I love him, even if they were just seemingly menial things. Then a description of how they make me feel.
I love you for your sense of direction. I never have to worry about where I’m at when I’m with you.
I love that you pays the bills. That is such a headache that I am lucky to not have to worry about.
I love that you kiss me every morning before going to work (even when I am mad at you). It makes me feel so special.
I love your heart. You have a way of making people feel noticed and important. You are such a giver.
These are just a few of the things on my list. I gave it to him with a few other birthday gifts and he told me later that my “list” was his favorite gift.
Aww. That’s so sweet Jen and what a great idea. Thanks for sharing with us! I’ll keep that in mind for his birthday coming up.
Thank you for such a wonderful post. As a military wife all of these become even more important. With increased time apart, whether it is by deployments or working opposite schedules, the little extra effort goes a long way. I always try to let my husband know that I am proud of him, I miss him or am thinking of him (even if its only been a typical 8-hour work day) or how blessed I feel because he is part of my life. A successful marriage definitely takes daily effort. Thank you for sharing!
I can’t imagine how difficult that must be, to be apart for such lengths of time. Marriage does take daily effort. It’s great that you have the right perspective. So glad you stopped by!