I just started a study called Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst. Where has this study been my whole life? I’m not even through chapter one and these words and thoughts are spilling out of me. So I thought I’d share.
What is up with our emotions?
In one hour I can have the following emotions:
Joy/Sadness (Yes, in one.) Over a song like ‘Carry your Candle’. Have you ever cried over that song? I mean seriously. It just does something wacky with my emotions.
Anger I just repeated my myself to my child for the 5th time and he is NOT listening! Seriously, 5 times. There is something wrong with this picture.
Resentment My husband just disappointed me. I really was hoping he would do blah,blah,blah. And he didn’t. And you know what? He forgot to take the trash out yesterday when I asked. And what is up with that? He didn’t even call me yesterday. And you know what else? I didn’t get a card for my birthday last year. Why did I even want to get married. I feel so alone. I have to do everything myself. This is getting so old. When will things ever change? All I do is give and get nothing in return?
OH MYGOODNESS! Do you see anything wrong with that last conversation I just had in my head? Do you relate in any way?
Please….please….tell me I’m not the only one who goes from 0 to 60 in no time flat. I just allowed a small disappointment to turn into a huge pity party. And all within a minute’s time.
Do you see how fickle our emotions can be?
In the study Lysa says “Feelings should be indicators not dictators.” Yowza!
Do you hear that? Our feelings should be indicators of what’s going on inside of us, in our hearts. They should not dictate the way we react to situations.
I’m going to get real with you and tell you this. I am a ‘control freak.’ I was even labelled that in high school by some classmates of mine.
Things in the past that I may or may not have tried to control:
– Every aspect of home improvement.
– How much time we spend with certain people, i.e. his family.
– What color Christmas lights are hung.
– How to parent our children.
Am I proud when I look at my past? No.
But it it also an indicator of who I am. I’m learning that my controlling nature is a direct reflection of relying on my feelings. They go hand in hand. Ugh! Who likes emotions and feelings anyway? I still do. Regardless of how desperate I can feel at times. But I have to keep myself in line.
I can do that by asking myself these questions.
1. Am I overreacting? Did I just take something small and make it seem much bigger?
2. Will this even matter 3 hours or 1 week from now? If not, let it go….
3. Is my perfection/controlling nature bulging out of me? Example: How the dishwasher gets loaded. Or how the wash clothes are folded. Can I pass on the control to my child, husband etc.? In most cases, the answer is yes.
4. Does this perfection that I’m seeking in someone else bring out the best in them? Or am I seeking it for my own satisfaction and reputation?
As I desperately seek to gain control of the situations and people around me, my emotions control me. But if I yield my emotions to God he gives me the strength to control my reactions.
When I pray you answer me. You encourage me by giving me the strength I need. Psalm 138:3
What are some ways that have helped you to keep your emotions in check????
I’d love to hear because this is truly a really hard one for me. I need your encouragement!
Love and blessings as always,
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